When you’re suffering from a condition like premature ejaculation, it can often feel like you’re on your own — even if you are in a committed relationship. But it’s important to realise that sexual disorders like premature ejaculation are extremely common and can be managed with proper medical treatment.
Even though premature ejaculation only physically affects men, it can create long-lasting psychological impacts for both partners. In this post, we will discuss how premature ejaculation can affect your relationship and share how (and why) you should seek out treatment if you think you’re experiencing PE.
What is premature ejaculation?
First, let’s share some basic information about this condition. You’re considered to have premature ejaculation if you find yourself regularly reaching orgasm before you or your partner would prefer. Often, this occurs within the first two minutes of sexual activity.
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual disorder among men, impacting roughly 21-31% of the Australian male population. Fortunately, there are several proven treatments for PE, which we will discuss below.
Although premature ejaculation frequently affects teenagers and men in their twenties, it can happen at any age. Some men have “lifelong” premature ejaculation (meaning the condition began occurring early on in life and continued through adulthood). Others have “acquired” premature ejaculation, which strikes later in life.
Most men have climaxed earlier than they would like at some point in their life. But it’s only considered to be premature ejaculation if it happens consistently and bothers you and your partner.
How premature ejaculation affects relationships
Even though premature ejaculation is a male sexual disorder, it can impact both partners in a relationship. While you’re dealing with the frustration of climaxing earlier than you would like, your partner could be feeling disappointed in the overall experience.
In a study from the University of Zurich, researchers found that men with premature ejaculation tend to focus too much on controlling their erection. As a result, they put less focus on their partner’s needs, causing disappointment and irritation.
If your partner begins to associate intercourse with disappointment, they might start to avoid sex altogether. In turn, this can create resentment and a rift in your relationship.
When you don’t feel confident in your sexual performance, you can also suffer in other areas of your personal life. Untreated premature ejaculation often leads to a number of mental health problems, including depression and anxiety. Unfortunately, these mental health challenges can also cause issues in your marriage or relationship.
There are many ways that untreated premature ejaculation can negatively influence your relationship. In some cases, premature ejaculation and similar sexual disorders even play a role in breakups and divorces.
Why it’s important to seek treatment for premature ejaculation
Without the right medical advice and treatment, your sexual dysfunction is unlikely to improve. As a result, your frustration (and your partner’s disappointment) will only increase. As with anything else, the longer that you ignore it, the worse the problem will become.
Not only does getting treatment help you last longer in bed, but it also makes you better equipped to please your partner and allows you both to feel more satisfied in your sex life.
When you’re less worried about orgasming too early, you can begin to explore new things in bed with your partner. Treatment gives you the freedom to try positions and fantasies that you may have avoided in the past due to your condition.
Typical treatment options for premature ejaculation include behavioural techniques, exercises, and prescription medications. Your doctor may also recommend counselling or therapy if you’re experiencing relationship problems relating to premature ejaculation.
Relationship stress can be both a cause and an outcome of premature ejaculation. As such, part of your treatment plan might include working together with your partner to tackle ongoing issues that have been caused by your condition.
Untreated premature ejaculation can easily disrupt your relationship, but you have to remember that you are both in this together. With commitment and open communication from both partners, you can begin to mend problems in your relationship that are related to your premature ejaculation.
How to get treatment for premature ejaculation
For some men, the thought of asking for help with premature ejaculation is quite daunting. However, getting help for premature ejaculation has become incredibly easy. There’s no need to contact your regular GP or schedule an in-person visit with a specialist.
Instead, you can set up a consultation with an online PE clinic (like Men’s Health Clinic) to get a diagnosis and begin a customised treatment plan. Our team of licenced Australian doctors specialise in men’s health issues, including premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and low testosterone. We understand that these conditions can be quite personal and difficult to discuss, so we approach each case with a high level of sensitivity and confidentiality.
If you think you might have one of these conditions, Men’s Health Clinic can help. Get started by taking our quick online self-assessment, which will ask questions about how long you last during intercourse and how often you’re able to satisfy your partner. If your responses reveal that you may have a problem, we recommend that you get in touch with us for a consultation.
During this appointment, you’ll have the opportunity to speak with a medical about your current symptoms and medical history, ultimately leading to a diagnosis (if necessary). From there, your doctor will come up with a personalised treatment plan that’s designed just for you. Our pharmacy team will package up your prescriptions and ship them directly to you in discreet packaging.
After you start treatment, your doctor will be in touch to coordinate monthly check-ins and assess your progress. You’ll also have access to 24/7 patient support in case you have questions or concerns.
Learn more about how Men’s Health Clinic can help you conquer premature ejaculation and regain your confidence in the bedroom. Call us today on 1300 878 117 or submit a contact request form on our website.